Straight up the opposite of love is fear. Yes, fear. No, not hate. Hate is the absence of love or just a bunch of other shitty emotions rolled up together. Fear. Fear is this uber-controlling emotion/reaction based on your previous programming reaching back in to your ass-slapped childhood and from that sick moment you decided you would rather be 'good' and 'nice' (ie: obedient) rather than happy. You would rather be someone else's domesticated puppet instead of realizing your true potential. Anyway, whatever fear is, you've got it. There's a healthy dose (the lion is chasing you) and an unhealthy dose where you just do things automatically for fear of some possible (and usually not probable) consequence. You automatically react based on something awful that might happen if you don't. It's an unofficial obsessive-compulsive series of opressive actions fueled by unconscious programmings making you cut off the freeken flow of life itself.
(Remind me, articles on domestication, control and diet are forthcoming.)
There are two ways to make a decision, one is based on love and another is based on fear. Take some time and reflect on the decisions you made today and think about whether they were based on love or fear and I will bet you that you didn't even stop to think about it. (But now you're thinking about it and that's the point.) Keep in mind that two identical actions taken by the same person at different times or by two different people at the same time could be based on completely different motivations (fear/love). For example, did you choose that salad at lunch today because you love the crunch, the cooling feeling and the combination of flavours or did you choose it because you just realized it's Friday and you've been eating burgers all week?
This rant comes about due to an escalation in vaccination debates over in Facebook land this week. (Again, I could and possibly will, write volumes on health in general.) First I want to note that a person who has been programmed by the society in which they live that medicine (made in a factory with a bunch of chemicals for a profit) is the key to health. Yes, there are people that truly, truly believe that. For said people, the decision to vaccinate themselves and their non-consenting children (well, I suppose you could say their children did consent by virtue of being their children) is based on love. They are protecting themselves and their loved ones and society as a whole. Because science says, because their doctor says, because the school says, just because. These people should shoot up with the chemical stew designed for exactly that, to make them feel better.
I, on the other hand, don't believe that health comes from doctors, nor do I believe that health is entirely physical. You see, we are in part, mind, body and soul. Take note, body is at most, a third of who we are. What we do to our bodies is minimal compared to what we are thinking (the seed of all creation) and the spirit that flows through us. Take it from a scientific perspective or a religious perspective, I don't care. I will take it from the perspective of the garden hose. There is the body (the hose) the mind (the person that decides to turn on the hose or step on it or not) and the soul (the water flowing through the hose). The functioning of the hose is not up to the physical hose itself. It's like saying, "I bought a hose and took it home and my garden is still dry." You have to hook it up and turn it on (and not step on it). It's complex, but not really it's just not all about the hose. But I digress.
Fear. If you believed there was a natural order to things (like if you've ever seen a flock of starlings soar in exquisite synchronicity) and you filled yourself with good food (whatever you believe that to be), spent time outdoors, had wonderful relationships, a fulfilling job, a beautiful place to call home, felt mentally stimulated, spiritually calm, had self-confidence, were filled with love for yourself and the universe around you, moved your body in ways that felt wonderful, were positive, and rested well would you really base your life's decisions (remember, a lot of little decisions like what to eat for breakfast are your life's decisions) based on remotely possible future disasters?
Would you be preparing for war? The collapse of the economy? The rapture? Would you worry about getting the flu? Getting in a car accident? Getting sued? Dying?
Where do you base your decisions on fear instead of love. Please share in the comments below.